The teenager seems to have replaced the Communist as the appropriate target for public controversy and foreboding. ~Edgar Friedenberg, The Vanishing Adolescent

Friday, January 29, 2010

The text asked the questions, "Do you agree with Dorfman's position that children receive a 'secret education' in the media" Do you remember any incidents in your own childhood that support his allegations?"


As a prospective teacher I often catch myself thinking about my childhood and past schooling experiences. I am studying to be an early educator and so I spend much of my time with my head in children's books. The children's books of today are much different then the ones I was read, and read from, as a preschooler. Today's children's books are diverse in their choice of main characters and now approach a broad base of situations that young children could face. When I was in preschool I don't remember ever seeing books with main characters that weren't white and mostly male. These books perpetuated the gender roles placed on us by our society and did not give children another option. The female characters, which were so often the supporting role, where often placed in dresses, despite the situation the text presented, and these females often seemed weak or passive, and needed coxing from the male lead character. Dorfman used the word "handled" to describe how the media uses subtle messages from birth to conform the masses and suppress rebellion. these images presented to us as preschoolers have set the stage for the continuation of inequality in America. woman are often still paid a cheaper salaries then those of their male counterparts and are still so often viewed as the weaker of the two sexes, despite scientific research.

Many children can experience feelings of homosexuality or feelings about not being placed in the right body, long before there is information available to help them through these feelings. Some children can experience these types of feelings as early as preschool, for these children help and information needs to be presented to them in a way that they can understand and find meaning in. Now and days more and more children's books are being published with positive messages about transgender and homosexuality to both help children experiencing these feelings, and also to help others understand and accept these children for their differences. Recently many books have also been published which display non conventional family dynamics, like this children's book which describes a family with two mothers. These books can often help educators and parents begin to discuss these issues and help children accept everyone for their differences.

These options were not available when I was a child, but we are now seeing books which defy the stereotypical American family image and begin to describe issues that real children are facing. Justine, a senior in high school was quoted in our text stating, "True death equals a generation living by rules and attitudes they never questioned and producing more children who do the same." Hopefully with the diversity in children's books today, the next generation will grow up to rebel against the stereotypes and false images placed upon all of us by society. I can only hope that as an educator I can continue to question the rules placed upon me and teach my students to do the same.




Wednesday, January 27, 2010

when i was thirteen...

When i was thirteen I was considered an average teen, but it certainly didn't feel like it to me at the time. I felt socially awkward, fat, ugly, and totally under appreciated by the rest of the world. All I heard about was how horrible teenagers were, but I did not fill the stereotypical mold of a teenager. At thirteen I was the vice president of my local 4-H club and I was optimistic about saving the world and helping my community. I participated in leadership conferences and was ready to get out and explore the world, but my mother had another plan for me. I was brought up in a very overprotective household with a mother who had control issues (that I have realized I myself have inherited). At thirteen I felt I was ready to venture from the nest and start experiencing the world, but instead I was sheltered from it. Being sheltered and held back wasn't in my plans and I began to rebel against my upbringing. I began to lie, sneak out, and experiment with drugs and alcohol. Saving the world became less important as rebelling my parents tyrannical rule began to take up more and more of my time. By trying so hard to rebel against my parents I began to conform to the labels and stereotypes I once had intentions of breaking.
I thought I was the only person in the world that felt the way I did, but now I see that many teenagers felt the same way as I did and teenagers in the future will continue to feel this way. It is my hopes that through this class and this blog that I can inform others that teenagers are not the negative creatures society has made them out to be, and these negative labels only perpetuate this image and stifle our youth.

poem by an anonymous teen

Thoughts Of A Teenage Mind

© By Anonymous
So what if I'm not as you expected!
I'm different, I'm not like you.

Is this a reason for me to be neglected?
I do my own thing; to me this world is new.

My thoughts and opinions are not to your liking,
But I love how I am.

I know you find my personality shocking,
But I'm only human.

I don't want to conform;
I like to stand out

On this I stand stern,
To be an individual! I shout,

But you try to tie me down,
Clip my wings, so I cannot fly.

If I conform, all you'll see is my frown.
I feel smothered, like I will die.

So what if I'm different!
Love me for who I am!

You do know that 'm God sent,
But I feel as though my life is sham.

I'm not going to change to please you!
You say I rebel,

But is this really true?
Sometimes my life feels like a living Hell!

Whatever my crime,
I refuse to change.

I would much rather serve my time,
I simply refuse to listen to a word you say!

You just have to deal
Take me as I am, or leave me alone.

I have the time to kill
As you sit there deciding on how to make me your clone,

But I am what I am,
And I'm comfortable with being me,

I hate living this shame!
Loving myself, now that's the true key.


found on http://www.poetryamerica.com/read_poems.asp?id=409676